I can’t say one way or the other that the 20 years healed either her or me. But I got tired of trying. from that point on, I took care of myself. Then covid hit, and a frank discussion on how short life is, broke the ice. but I was exhausted. She is most definitely, a puzzle.

Therefore I would never suggest the “cold war” to anyone. that was my choice,, Financially, Divorce may not be an option. Divorce to me never seemed realistic ,, but I think I chose the correct path.

on the other hand, life is short. there is no one size that fits all answer.

No Matter the situation, Put yourself first, and take care of yourself. Then understand that for your relationship to succeed, your Love for her, becomes a verb. you have to do so through your actions toward her. and learn to suck it up. I know of no other way.

Ya did the samething stopped reading after the cheating part ,ya been through that while she was pregnant with my daughter….all I can say is women don’t hear anything we say nor can we do anything to there satisfaction no matter what

Thank you. More men should be so honest about their misogyny. In fact, get this whole statement printed on a t shirt so humans know to run when they see you. Better yet, take it to a therapist and ask for help.

I have the same problem with my friend of 12 years, with being the other woman of who ever he wants to be with, and I bought up the past and we had words and I told him the only reason I have sex with him is because I have to, because he takes care of me and I want for nothing, he pays everything, I live alone, he got so upset and now we are not intimate anymore, and I want him to understand that I want that back with him, yet he feels like he is punishing me, he still gives me anything I wants or needs, how can I get him to understand that he got it twisted, and he shouldn’t put his feelings in to it like that, I know he loves me, I love him to a certain extreme, and don’t want us to end. How do I get him back in my bed?